Are You On The Edge of Glory?

February 1, 2024

"On Groundhog Day, the groundhog is supposed to come out of his hole and look for his shadow. I don't think that is right. I think the groundhog should be looking for food. It's only February 2nd. It's not time to start thinking about shadows."

Ellen DeGeneres

In psychology, the concept of the "shadow" is often associated with Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung's theory. The shadow represents the unconscious and repressed aspects of an individual's personality. It encompasses the parts of ourselves that we deny, ignore, or suppress because they are considered socially unacceptable, morally objectionable, or personally uncomfortable.


Exploring one's shadow involves acknowledging and integrating these hidden aspects, which may include fears, desires, insecurities, or traits that are opposite to the ones we consciously identify with. By confronting and embracing the shadow, individuals can achieve greater self-awareness and a more balanced and authentic sense of self. Jung believed that understanding and integrating the shadow is crucial for personal growth and psychological well-being. Ignoring the shadow can lead to projection, where individuals attribute their unconscious qualities to others, creating relationship conflicts and misunderstandings.


Groundhog Day is a traditional North American holiday observed on February 2nd each year. The most famous celebration takes place in Punxsutawney, Pennsylvania. According to folklore, if a groundhog emerges from its burrow on this day and sees its shadow, there will be six more weeks of winter. If it doesn't see its shadow, it is believed that spring will arrive early.

Groundhog Day’s celebration has roots in ancient European weather lore and has been celebrated in North America since the 18th century.


The day has become widely known due to the 1993 comedy film "Groundhog Day," starring Bill Murray, which popularised the concept of reliving the same day repeatedly.

With a similar theme but nastier daily consequences for the main actor, Tom Cruise - is the 2014 Sci-Fi Action film “Edge of Tomorrow” starring Tom Cruise and Emily Blunt. Cruise's character dies every day in battle as he is sent to fight in a futuristic alien war where most of Europe is invaded by an alien race, but Cruise’s character is a PR army type rather than a trained combat soldier. Cruise finds himself experiencing a time loop as he relives each day, trying to find a way to defeat the alien invaders. 


Curiously, the underlying standout for me from both films is that Bill Murray’s character does something different every day to ensure that his day isn’t repetitive and boring, and he starts to really enjoy the change he sees within himself. The other characters in the movie, unaware of Bill Murray’s time loop conundrum – are living each Groundhog Day for the first time, but within the course of their one day, are seeing the improvement in him as a character and like what they see as well.


Tom Cruise’s character remembers where all the bad things happened (his character’s demise usually) and seeks out the training required to improve his skills. Seasoned soldier Emily Blunt’s character trains Cruise every day, and each day, he gets further and further through the day until eventually overcoming the aliens and winning the day.

Back to real life, I believe each day of our lives can be filled with many little victories to win the day if, like soldiers, we have a plan of attack. It’s easier said than done, but in Bill Murray & Tom Cruise’s case, they knew what each day would bring as they had experienced the same thing the day before.


If you feel like one month into the year, you are about to live this year just like last year or previously uninspiring years, then maybe you can benefit from my free webinar next Thursday night.


“Finding Your Phenomenal. Getting Out of Your Own Way, So That You Can Go from Great To Phenomenal”


In this free webinar, you will hold a mirror up to yourself across what I call the eight masts of mastery.


You will discover what your “why” is in the Purpose discovery component, and you will leave the webinar with a thorough understanding of what “IT” is you need to do to master each area of your life from a Mental, Physical, Spiritual, Social, Financial, Family, Business and Romance perspective.


I used to say, “If you’re not living life on the edge, then you’re taking up too much space”, but this was generally delivered after doing something risky or reckless or trying to convince someone else to do the same. I stopped saying that after a mate, and I nearly drowned one day.


These days, with my life’s plan firmly in place, I’m the captain of my ship and the master of my destiny.


At the end of this webinar, you will have your own “Destiny Manifesto” to navigate the stormy seas of uncertainty and embark upon the best year of your life.

Spaces are limited, so click the link below to secure your spot in this free webinar.


https://calendly.com/david-2168/finding-your-phenomenal-getting-out-of-your-own-way



I look forward to seeing you on the night!

Sail Well.

DL


"Keep your face always toward the sunshine—and shadows will fall behind you." 

 Walt Whitman

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By David Lee September 25, 2024
"How you wake up each day and your morning routine (or lack thereof) dramatically affects your levels of success in every single area of your life. Focused, productive, successful mornings generate focused, productive, successful days— which inevitably create a successful life." Hal Elrod (Author of The Miracle Morning )
By David Lee June 30, 2024
"By three methods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest." CONFUCIOUS In their book Ikigai: The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life, Hector García and Francesc Miralles write that there is no word in Japanese that means to retire in the sense of leaving the workforce for good. The Oxford Dictionary defines ikigai as “a motivating force; something or someone that gives a person a sense of purpose or a reason for living”. In researching their book, García and Miralles spent time in the village of Ogimi on the Japanese island of Okinawa. Ogimi is known as the village of longevity. Its 3000 inhabitants enjoy the highest life expectancy in the world. In Japanese culture, retiring and not keeping mind and body busy is considered bad for your health since it disconnects your soul from your ikigai. Being of service to the village by continuing to be involved in community life or continuing to work is felt to be a key ingredient to longevity. In the book, 92-year-old resident Akira says: “Every day I wake up and go to the fields to grow tomatoes. Later I walk to the grocery store next to the beach and sell them. In the afternoon I go to the community center and prepare green tea for all my family and friends.” These Japanese people keep doing what they love and what they are good at even after they have left the office for the last time. The French, of course, have a similar expression—“raison d’être”—which the Oxford Dictionary defines as “the most important reason for somebody’s/something’s existence”. The more time I spend with spritely elderly people, the more I find they are still involved in their community as volunteers or working the job they loved before they “retired”. Like many of the lessons older people have taught me, we shouldn’t wait until we’re retired to adopt their happiness-inducing and youth-preserving behaviours. The definition of what makes people happy varies greatly, however in his book From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life, Arthur C. Brooks believes that the three major ingredients of happiness are enjoyment, satisfaction, and purpose. The satisfaction and enjoyment I receive from encouraging people to be better than they believe they are, and to press on in times of hardship, provides a real sense of meaning and purpose in my life. The Dalai Lama, when asked what surprised him most about humanity, replied: “Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.” I’ve coached many people who spent the first half of their lives chasing wealth and are now spending the second half of their lives chasing back their health. I’ve been coaching many more people lately who aren’t concerned about the health they have lost. They fear being cast aside and replaced by much younger yet inexperienced people, threatening the wealth they created while they adopted a “health is your wealth” mentality. Those deciding my client’s fates are themselves, in most cases, much younger than these seasoned campaigners. The dirtiest secret I keep for one of my good friends is his age. He invited me to his 40th, which was really his 50th and the younger folks were none the wiser. The best kept secret of my healthiest clients is also their age. I used to say the payoff of fitness is vanity. These days I say it is sanity. The peace of mind my fit "old" friends have is that they look younger than their age, because they look after themselves. In searching for ideas to support how I wanted to describe the collective suffering people have struggled with in the past yet are now enjoying equality and opportunities provided for them after many generations of struggle, ChatGPT served up the following. "Diversity refers to the presence of differences within a given setting. These differences can include various dimensions such as race, ethnicity, gender, age, sexual orientation, socioeconomic status, physical abilities, religious beliefs, political beliefs, and other ideologies." Unprompted, I was then offered, “In a broader sense, diversity encompasses the unique characteristics and perspectives that individuals bring to a group, organization, or society, enriching the collective experience and fostering a more inclusive environment.” I was invited to pitch for a consulting role with a global organisation 10 years ago and the friend who had organised the meeting warned me of the CEO’s bias toward younger people. Within 10 minutes of our meeting, the CEO was challenging the energy levels and enthusiasm of more experienced people as he called them, versus that of 20–30-year-olds. At this point, with the benefit of the heads up, I pulled out my phone and showed him a video to illustrate my point in age versus experience I went on to suggest that the challenge for the 3 standout players in this video was to teach the energetically enthused players how to do what they could do, while they were on the job, not in handover notes that will never be read.. I got the gig. I do think that ageism is the last blatant discrimination in the workplace and needs to be addressed by those with much more clout than my keyboard and contacts can achieve. The brave new world aside, Dame Carol Black from the Centre for Ageing Better brilliantly pointed out “Ageism compounds all other “isms”. Ageism and sexism; ageism and racism etc” A final word to the “whys” of those considering losing experience from their workforce is best left to Carole Eastern CEO of Ageing Better; “Ageism is prejudice against our future selves” The challenge for any generation is to assimilate with people of all ages. Most of the best advice I received in the workforce was bestowed upon me by older colleagues in a social setting for the cost of a steak and a wine, and most of the advice I have dispensed to younger colleagues has been dispensed the same way. Curiously, when I joined the workforce, the biggest shortcoming that was ever levelled at me was my lack of experience.. Age well. DL “The young have bad manners, contempt for authority, disrespect for their elders and a love for chatter instead of exercise. Children began to become the tyrants of their households ……. They no longer rise for their elders ….” Socrates
By David Lee June 21, 2024
“It seems to me that the real problem is the mind itself, and not the problem which the mind has created and tries to solve. If the mind is petty, small, narrow, limited, however great and complex the problem may be, the mind approaches that problem in terms of its pettiness.” Jiddu Krishnamuti
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