IS WORK-LIFE BALANCE A HIT OR A MYTH?

February 16, 2024

"Better learn balance, balance is key" Mr. Miyagi


I believe work-life balance is your ability to leave work at work at the end of the day, especially on weekends, and enjoy a fulfilled life rather than maintain a busy life.


Little by little a little becomes a lot and the sooner we look at our daily lives from an irons in the fire perspective, rather than a spinning plates way of living, we will all find peace.


In the busy person's life, through being overwhelmed, a lack of planning, and distractions, if one plate falls to the ground, the others all seem to come crashing down as well.


In the fulfilled, well-ordered person's life, their irons in the fire are watched carefully with focus and if one of the fires appears to be losing heat, the iron of that area of life is stoked, and if need be, more "fuel" is added to heat things up.


It is said that stress is determined by the degree to which we feel in control or out of control of our lives. Planning and scheduling is a form of control. Lack of planning and scheduling is a form of chaos.


Curiously, the hit American TV Series "Get Smart," which appeared on television between 1965 & 1970, was about a fictional secret U.S. government agency created to combat the threats posed by the evil organisation known as KAOS. The good guys were known as CONTROL.


CONTROL's primary role was to protect the United States and the world from KAOS's nefarious schemes, which often involve espionage, sabotage, and other acts of villainy. CONTROL employed strategic intelligence to outsmart and defeat KAOS, ultimately working to preserve peace and stability. Balance.


An imbalanced life, where one doesn’t take personal responsibility, results in a life full of blame. Blame is a form of reactivity, where as personal responsibility is just that, your ability to respond.


In Viktor Frankl's “Man’s Search For Meaning" he describes responsibility.


“Between stimulus and response there is space and in that space lies our power to choose our response and in that response lies our growth and our freedom."


The net effect of not finding balance is our loss of freedom. Freedom breeds creativity. Creativity breeds growth.


I used to say that road rage is the fault of the person in front of you, for you running late. I’ve since come to believe that road rage and overwhelm is everybody else’s fault for you not having a plan.


Time management is life management. Leaders who encourage employees through wellness programs, gym memberships, walking meetings and inspirational speakers, know that physiology is psychology; how you feel is how you think. The most excellent way to kickstart feeling good is to move as soon as possible in the morning and to journal about your thoughts.


In everything you want in life, I ask you to consider what your action steps are in getting what you want and how you can make these action steps happen.

Within my DREAM goal setting acrostic A stands for Action and M for Make it happen. If you don’t do the A & M in the a.m., you won’t do them in the p.m., and the PM (post-mortem) will arrive a lot sooner than it should.


When Tim Ferris wrote the book “The 4-hour Workweek” back in 2007, he promoted the idea of lifestyle and time freedom and that you could convince your employer to allow you to work from home. I read the book in 2008 and convinced my boss at the time to allow me to work from home three days a week. When Covid hit, and we complained about not going to the office, I knew people would soon catch on. 


The downside, and it comes back to balance, is that many people are now living at work, rather than working from home.


So, alarm clocks and timers need to be set, along with planning and scheduling.



Complaining about administrative work performed in your leisure time and blaming your Boss because you didn't schedule time for administrative work or taking time away from your family and loved ones for this "work" is a form of organised chaos.


My book due to be released in the U.S, the U.K and here in Australia on May 21st this year,

"IS YOUR BOSS MAKING YOU SICK?” provides a framework for how to achieve work-life balance.


You see, your BOSS may own you for the 8 hours they pay you, and the sandman may own you for the 8 hours of sleep you pray for each night, but how you spend the 8 hours of leisure that YOU own, determines whether you will have a balanced and fulfilled life.


So, you need a morning routine, and you need an evening ritual. It is just as hard to go to bed early as it is to wake up early. Set an alarm to go to bed and turn the snooze option off your morning alarm.


The subtitle of my book is “THE 8 E’S OF EQUILIBRIUM TO MASTER WORK-LIFE BALANCE”


These 8 E’s are:

  1. Enlightenment
  2. Education
  3. Exercise
  4. Eating
  5. Engagement
  6. Encouragement
  7. Entertainment
  8. Embodiment


Divide them into morning, daytime, and evening activities, and spend an hour on each daily. You'll find your balance sooner than you think.


For an advanced copy, 25% off the cover price and free delivery within Australia, click in the blue title below and enter I AM THE BOSS at checkout, and I’ll sign your copy with gratitude (an Enlightening behaviour) IS YOUR BOSS MAKING YOU SICK? BOOK

Here's to a balanced and fulfilling life!

Be Well.

DL

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And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.” I’ve coached many people who spent the first half of their lives chasing wealth and are now spending the second half of their lives chasing back their health. I’ve been coaching many more people lately who aren’t concerned about the health they have lost. They fear being cast aside and replaced by much younger yet inexperienced people, threatening the wealth they created while they adopted a “health is your wealth” mentality. Those deciding my client’s fates are themselves, in most cases, much younger than these seasoned campaigners. The dirtiest secret I keep for one of my good friends is his age. He invited me to his 40th, which was really his 50th and the younger folks were none the wiser. The best kept secret of my healthiest clients is also their age. 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Unprompted, I was then offered, “In a broader sense, diversity encompasses the unique characteristics and perspectives that individuals bring to a group, organization, or society, enriching the collective experience and fostering a more inclusive environment.” I was invited to pitch for a consulting role with a global organisation 10 years ago and the friend who had organised the meeting warned me of the CEO’s bias toward younger people. Within 10 minutes of our meeting, the CEO was challenging the energy levels and enthusiasm of more experienced people as he called them, versus that of 20–30-year-olds. At this point, with the benefit of the heads up, I pulled out my phone and showed him a video to illustrate my point in age versus experience I went on to suggest that the challenge for the 3 standout players in this video was to teach the energetically enthused players how to do what they could do, while they were on the job, not in handover notes that will never be read.. I got the gig. I do think that ageism is the last blatant discrimination in the workplace and needs to be addressed by those with much more clout than my keyboard and contacts can achieve. The brave new world aside, Dame Carol Black from the Centre for Ageing Better brilliantly pointed out “Ageism compounds all other “isms”. Ageism and sexism; ageism and racism etc” A final word to the “whys” of those considering losing experience from their workforce is best left to Carole Eastern CEO of Ageing Better; “Ageism is prejudice against our future selves” The challenge for any generation is to assimilate with people of all ages. Most of the best advice I received in the workforce was bestowed upon me by older colleagues in a social setting for the cost of a steak and a wine, and most of the advice I have dispensed to younger colleagues has been dispensed the same way. Curiously, when I joined the workforce, the biggest shortcoming that was ever levelled at me was my lack of experience.. Age well. DL “The young have bad manners, contempt for authority, disrespect for their elders and a love for chatter instead of exercise. Children began to become the tyrants of their households ……. They no longer rise for their elders ….” Socrates
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