I often muse that the campfire was the original television for the caveman – yet a live fire as entertaining as it can be, is not as mindless as television viewing can be.
One of my favourite things to do, is to sit in front of a fireplace or campfire and get lost in the flickering flames of thought.
I’ve ‘fire dreamed’ many of the things that I have achieved over the years, and I keep an A5 ring bound journal with a red star on the cover to record these fire dreams in. The one requirement is that I have a 2-week deadline for taking action, or I tear out the idea… it is a great motivator for action and accountability.
You see thinking is great if it is followed by action. I feel that if I dwell too long on something then I need to stop dwelling 'on' it and start dealing 'with' it.
Don't dwell on it - Deal with it, is one of my mantras.
Curiously the one thing in life you have complete control over is your thoughts.
I witnessed a waitress scald herself in a café recently and immediately she put her arm under cold running water. She felt the pain and immediately applied her known remedy. We experience mind pain and rather than apply known remedies, one of which is to change the channel, we continue to watch the bad movie play out.
The thing I have found about thinking that has a downside, is over thinking and stinking thinking.
Over thinking is the plight of the perfectionist and stinking thinking, that of the masochist.
The problem for perfectionists is that nothing is ever perfect, so in overthinking they never commit to, or finish the task at hand. The problem for masochists is that stinking thinking keeps them in the status quo – which seems to suit them.
Cicero said 'Indecision is the thief of opportunity'
The best way I know of managing thinking to be beneficial, is to dedicate time to deep thought and contemplation – The benefits of allocated thinking time is that you find your outcome and have eureka moments, rather than carrying thoughts around with you or losing sleep over them.
It was once explained to me, that sitting and thinking for ½ an hour at a time, is like a bucket of muddy water that eventually settles and all the ‘silt’ sinks to the bottom, with clear water revival…
If you are the type of person who finds it difficult to sit still for ½ an hour without distractions and just allow your thoughts to gather, then a ½ hour walk or run can have the same benefit – I often wonder whether I am getting an endorphin rush from a ½ hour run, or is it the joys of clarity that I am experiencing after 30 minutes of uninterrupted thought (I don’t run with headphones)
So, without any further thought... here are 9 thought processes for consideration.
1. Change the Channel -
Your thinking should serve, support, nurture and sustain you, if it does not then change your thoughts with these objectives in mind. Nothing is either good or bad but thinking makes it so
2. Set a daily alarm for productive thinking
– I set an alarm for 3pm every day, to think about the things that may keep me awake at 3 o’clock in the morning – the worrying things I can do nothing about at that time. On most days these days, I find that when my 3pm alarm goes off, I have nothing to worry about and just keep getting on with my day 😊.
3. Check yourself before you wreck yourself -
When anxious thoughts creep in about the future, ask yourself, ‘what is the worst thing that could possibly go wrong?’ And then do everything in your power to avoid this ‘thing’ happening.
4. Be kind to yourself - Positive self-mind talk is great - don’t allow the voice in your head to speak to you in any way you would not allow another person to speak to you – your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your destiny – so speak well to you and your future self.
5. Practice mindfulness –
all you have is this moment and all you can influence right now is this moment – focus on this idea today and every day from now on and played right, you will naturally create a great future and naturally leave a great past.
6. Think on paper –
Journal! Write your aspirations and commitments down and read them often – once they are down on paper, they are out of your head and into the first stages of action.
7. Write lists
– lists act as great reminders and allow for greater mind space to think on your feet in daily life. To do lists, shopping lists, repair lists
8. Meditate –
clear out that mental closet. People who say they tried meditation once or twice but could not? Did you ever hear of someone going to the gym twice and quitting because they didn’t get fit? Even if your thoughts wander during mediation, be curious as to where they wander. Then do something positive towards those thoughts afterwards.
9. Don’t overthink things –
As much as Plato said ‘thinking is the talking of the soul with itself’, you would be concerned about yourself if you walked around talking out loud to yourself all day long… be aware of the time you commit to ‘thinking on things’
set a timer for thinking - Don’t think on a thing for longer than 20 or 30 minutes – more than this and this is where stinking thinking thrives.
Then there are those of us of course, who try to avoid thinking altogether with distractions such as television, social media, gossip, and addictive vices - all escape tools for productive pensiveness.
I am reminded of a Simpson’s episode where Lisa Simpson walks into the family lounge room, turns off the television and the radio and exclaims “People of Springfield, we have an announcement to make!”
Homer replies “Well turn something on, I’m starting to think!”
Unless a capacity for thinking be accompanied by a capacity for action, a superior mind exists in torture.
Benedetto Croce
Think well.
DL