Wherever You Go, There You Are...

September 30, 2021

If I only had a brain, a heart, the nerve... 

As we head out of what definitely looks like our final lockdown this time… with double vaccination levels being governmentally acceptable here in Australia – I’m now finding people are worried that they may not be in Kansas anymore, able to re-engage in real life, whether that be at work or in social settings.

The road forward is uncertain for many, but one we must take in order to reach our Destiny.

I am reminded of one of the first movies I remember watching as a child; the 1939 technicolour movie “The Wizard of Oz” 

This movie starring Judy Garland, starts off in black and white (lockdown) and then changes to colour (post COVID) once Dorothy, caught up in a cyclone in her hometown of Kansas, ends up in the land of the Munchkins, where she is greeted by the good Witch Glinda (Gladys?) and hundreds of little people (Munchkins) who sing her the directions to her destiny via a yellow brick road.

Along the journey to her DESTINY; the Emerald City - home to the Great Oz, provider of all that one desires, Dorothy and her little dog Toto are joined by the Scarecrow, who wishes he had brains; the Tin Woodman, who longs for a heart; and the Cowardly Lion, who seeks courage. 
They face many trials along their way, but they overcome them all, often because of the Scarecrow’s good thinking, the Tin Woodman’s compassion, and the bravery of the Cowardly Lion. 
Finally, they reach the Emerald City, where they all discover that they each already possessed everything they believed they needed to achieve their happiness outcomes and inevitable DESTINY.

This movie stuck with me for a few reasons – least favourable of all being the scary looking winged monkeys who wreaked havoc on the 4 travelers tearing apart the scarecrow and nearly ending their journey completely.

It stuck with me because each character had doubts of their own capabilities, yet they continued their journey to achieve their happiness.  

As the Scarecrow found, brains are not the same as an intelligent and developed mind. Babies have a brain, it’s what goes into those brains that becomes an adult’s intelligent mind. Everyone has heard the expression “A healthy body is a healthy mind” but I believe a healthy mind is essential for a healthy body – you need a disciplined mind to connect today’s actions with tomorrow’s goals and results.

As the Tin Man found, a heart doesn’t necessarily mean you are a loving person. If you meet a heartless person in the morning, then you met a heartless person. If you meet heartless people all day, then maybe you are the heartless person? Random acts of kindness and altruism are actions of a loving person. People treat you, the way you encourage them to treat you. 

And the Lion believes he lacks courage and is a coward because he experiences fear, as lions are supposed to be "The Kings of Beasts," the Cowardly Lion believes that his fear makes him inadequate. He does not understand that courage is acting in the face of fear – Brene Brown says that courage requires vulnerability. The cowardly lion is in fact brave, but he doubts himself. 

I believe the difference between confidence and arrogance is that most arrogant people are insecure chest beaters, bullies of sorts, who when faced with real danger, back down and fall to pieces - whereas confident people have a preparedness about them and courage in the fact that they have done their homework and are prepared for the worst. “We sweat in training to avoid bleeding in battle” 

The Wizard of Oz pops into my mind when I meet people who forget or are completely unaware that they have everything they need inside of them right now to reach their DESTINY. They have forgotten who they are or believe that who they once were is gone and lost forever: and they lack a plan.

This is particularly troubling for people who feel that they have finally nailed this zoom/teams/meets/ virtual drinks caper (which they doubted they were capable of at the beginning of this side show) and now they must go back to real life meetings??

People who at first didn’t want to have to work from home, who are now living at work, don’t want to have to go back to the office.

I tell people of my heater analogy, which is that each summer, I would unplug the heater and put it away under the stairs until next winter. Once the first cold snap of the next year rolled around, I would pull the heater out, plug it back in and turn it on. 
The heater would smell of burnt dust, Rattle and Hum a bit and In A Little While, kick back into gear and It’s a Beautiful Day.
U2 can adopt this analogy to your Covid hiatus.

Occasionally in my one-on-one PT sessions, I have my clients do sprint intervals on the treadmill at a speed they could not maintain for longer than 20 seconds.
To get to this intensity safely, I have them practice at a slow speed. They hold onto the side arms of the treadmill, taking a large proportion of their weight by their arms and then lift their legs off the running belt completely and land them on the side rails beside the moving belt.

We gradually increase the speed they are running, each time taking the load off and landing safely on the side bars.

We practice a “Fred Flintstone” style of running as they re-enter the running belt and off they go running flat out, repeating the process until their sprint session has finished.

I only recommend training like this once to twice a week to avoid injury in both the short and long term. 

I also take clients on bush walks down to a lake near my place and have them wear a weighted vest (rucking as the Americans call it) of between 20kgs & 30kgs. We walk down to the lake through a beautiful bushland track (forest bathing as the Japanese call it) pause for a while at the lake and then commence the hike back up, via a different track. A little while into the track we arrive at a very steep staircase and every single one of these people give me the exact same look as they arrive at the bottom of the staircase…

I tell them all exactly the same thing. Focus on the step in front of you.
Once we get to the top, we are back at my home very soon afterwards and upon unloading their weight vests, each of them has a major sense of accomplishment and experience a literal “weight of the world” off their shoulders.

I recommend that you take your re-entry to the post Covid world with a plan for your DESTINY - one step at a time, one day at a time, one moment at a time, one encounter at a time, one real life meeting at a time, one social event at a time, one family reunion at a time, with the acknowledgement that your planned DESTINY is inevitable. 

I would also recommend that just like the heater; understand that you haven’t forgotten how to be you, you have had to choose not to be you for the virtual lockdowns that we’ve had.

And just like the treadmill, recognise that with mental health finally being prioritised in the workforce, you can take the handrails every now and then and you don’t have to feel bad about having to Fred Flintstone it into workplaces, functions, meetings, society and even family in some cases – and like the side rails, you will return to your safe place and appreciate that there really is no place like home...
  
Do it now! 
Energy & Enthusiasm  
Success is Inevitable 
Trust the process 
I am enough
Never Ever Quit 
Yee Hah

Go Well
DL

If you have some short term goals that you want to achieve or need to kick start a new beginning in your life, reach out to Book some time in with me HERE, or drop me a note on email.  



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By David Lee September 25, 2024
"How you wake up each day and your morning routine (or lack thereof) dramatically affects your levels of success in every single area of your life. Focused, productive, successful mornings generate focused, productive, successful days— which inevitably create a successful life." Hal Elrod (Author of The Miracle Morning )
By David Lee June 30, 2024
"By three methods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest." CONFUCIOUS In their book Ikigai: The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life, Hector García and Francesc Miralles write that there is no word in Japanese that means to retire in the sense of leaving the workforce for good. The Oxford Dictionary defines ikigai as “a motivating force; something or someone that gives a person a sense of purpose or a reason for living”. In researching their book, García and Miralles spent time in the village of Ogimi on the Japanese island of Okinawa. Ogimi is known as the village of longevity. Its 3000 inhabitants enjoy the highest life expectancy in the world. In Japanese culture, retiring and not keeping mind and body busy is considered bad for your health since it disconnects your soul from your ikigai. Being of service to the village by continuing to be involved in community life or continuing to work is felt to be a key ingredient to longevity. In the book, 92-year-old resident Akira says: “Every day I wake up and go to the fields to grow tomatoes. Later I walk to the grocery store next to the beach and sell them. In the afternoon I go to the community center and prepare green tea for all my family and friends.” These Japanese people keep doing what they love and what they are good at even after they have left the office for the last time. The French, of course, have a similar expression—“raison d’être”—which the Oxford Dictionary defines as “the most important reason for somebody’s/something’s existence”. The more time I spend with spritely elderly people, the more I find they are still involved in their community as volunteers or working the job they loved before they “retired”. Like many of the lessons older people have taught me, we shouldn’t wait until we’re retired to adopt their happiness-inducing and youth-preserving behaviours. The definition of what makes people happy varies greatly, however in his book From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life, Arthur C. Brooks believes that the three major ingredients of happiness are enjoyment, satisfaction, and purpose. The satisfaction and enjoyment I receive from encouraging people to be better than they believe they are, and to press on in times of hardship, provides a real sense of meaning and purpose in my life. The Dalai Lama, when asked what surprised him most about humanity, replied: “Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.” I’ve coached many people who spent the first half of their lives chasing wealth and are now spending the second half of their lives chasing back their health. I’ve been coaching many more people lately who aren’t concerned about the health they have lost. They fear being cast aside and replaced by much younger yet inexperienced people, threatening the wealth they created while they adopted a “health is your wealth” mentality. Those deciding my client’s fates are themselves, in most cases, much younger than these seasoned campaigners. The dirtiest secret I keep for one of my good friends is his age. He invited me to his 40th, which was really his 50th and the younger folks were none the wiser. The best kept secret of my healthiest clients is also their age. I used to say the payoff of fitness is vanity. These days I say it is sanity. The peace of mind my fit "old" friends have is that they look younger than their age, because they look after themselves. In searching for ideas to support how I wanted to describe the collective suffering people have struggled with in the past yet are now enjoying equality and opportunities provided for them after many generations of struggle, ChatGPT served up the following. "Diversity refers to the presence of differences within a given setting. These differences can include various dimensions such as race, ethnicity, gender, age, sexual orientation, socioeconomic status, physical abilities, religious beliefs, political beliefs, and other ideologies." Unprompted, I was then offered, “In a broader sense, diversity encompasses the unique characteristics and perspectives that individuals bring to a group, organization, or society, enriching the collective experience and fostering a more inclusive environment.” I was invited to pitch for a consulting role with a global organisation 10 years ago and the friend who had organised the meeting warned me of the CEO’s bias toward younger people. Within 10 minutes of our meeting, the CEO was challenging the energy levels and enthusiasm of more experienced people as he called them, versus that of 20–30-year-olds. At this point, with the benefit of the heads up, I pulled out my phone and showed him a video to illustrate my point in age versus experience I went on to suggest that the challenge for the 3 standout players in this video was to teach the energetically enthused players how to do what they could do, while they were on the job, not in handover notes that will never be read.. I got the gig. I do think that ageism is the last blatant discrimination in the workplace and needs to be addressed by those with much more clout than my keyboard and contacts can achieve. The brave new world aside, Dame Carol Black from the Centre for Ageing Better brilliantly pointed out “Ageism compounds all other “isms”. Ageism and sexism; ageism and racism etc” A final word to the “whys” of those considering losing experience from their workforce is best left to Carole Eastern CEO of Ageing Better; “Ageism is prejudice against our future selves” The challenge for any generation is to assimilate with people of all ages. Most of the best advice I received in the workforce was bestowed upon me by older colleagues in a social setting for the cost of a steak and a wine, and most of the advice I have dispensed to younger colleagues has been dispensed the same way. Curiously, when I joined the workforce, the biggest shortcoming that was ever levelled at me was my lack of experience.. Age well. DL “The young have bad manners, contempt for authority, disrespect for their elders and a love for chatter instead of exercise. Children began to become the tyrants of their households ……. They no longer rise for their elders ….” Socrates
By David Lee June 21, 2024
“It seems to me that the real problem is the mind itself, and not the problem which the mind has created and tries to solve. If the mind is petty, small, narrow, limited, however great and complex the problem may be, the mind approaches that problem in terms of its pettiness.” Jiddu Krishnamuti
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