Double or Nothing?

September 7, 2021

If you plan on being anything less than you are capable of being, you will probably be unhappy all the days of your life – Dr. Abraham Maslow 

It is beginning to look as though there is light at the end of the tunnel.
Even though positive Covid numbers are still rising on a daily level in Australia, we know that with vaccination levels also rising for the double dosed, we will naturally start to see a decline in the number of overall positive cases. 
This means that our social freedoms will become available to us again and whilst my passport expires early next year, I’m expecting that my new one will fill up quickly, making up for lost time.

My youngest daughter was lamenting to me that this time of her life is when she should be travelling the world. 
I reassured her that just like the football games postponed when I used to train her soccer team due to bad weather, they were not cancelled – she eventually got to play them. When this usually Optimistic young lady continued, that no employer is ever going to let her go on holidays for 6 months, I agreed with her and reassured her again that I left a career job at the age of 26 and travelled for 6 months. 
St. Augustine said “The world is a book, and those who do not travel read only a page” so read more books during travel restrictions folks!

My 2X vaccination certificate from Medicare will now become my screen saver as I flash it upon entry to the venues that will reopen to the twicers and we can hope to return to some form of normality.
The vaccine fear mongers, will be left to feeding fear through their keyboards as they won’t be able to tell me why I shouldn’t have gotten vaccinated over a meal in a restaurant or a beer in a pub. They won’t even be able to fill me full of fear of my now new life expectancy of only 3 more years, whilst I’m having a picnic, which will allow 5 vaccine dualists to congregate in public without arrests or fines.

FEAR it is said can be thought of as:
False
Evidence
Appearing
Real

Throughout the vaccination fascination; facts, figures and fear aside, one quote that keeps running through my mind is by Lao Tzu which recommends;
“Watch your thoughts, they become your words, watch your words, they become your actions, watch your actions, they become your habits, watch your habits, they become your character, watch your character, it becomes your destiny.”

The only thing in your life that you have complete control over is your thoughts. You can choose how your thinking responds to fear mongering. You can choose how your thinking responds to the media. You can choose how your thinking responds to social media. You can choose how you respond to your own thinking on your thoughts around Covid.

I believe we can use this time to either just survive or to thrive. We can justify inertia because we are locked down, or we can justify action because we are looking up.

I’m a qualified Personal Trainer and a few years back I moved away from PT work and focused more on coaching as the waking hours for coaching are more sleep friendly. Throughout Covid I have had friends ask me if I would train them 1 on 1 as that is all our government will allow after shutting the gyms…

Reigniting my passion for witnessing the euphoria of my friends as they skipped off down my driveway after each session, more recently I have started to advertise my PT services again as my Corporate Covid Resilience program (a 1 hour presentation) has freed up a lot of one-on-one Coaching time, delivering it to groups ranging from 10 to over 1,000 at a time. Zoom Zoom!

I have been offering my PT sessions at 50% off what I used to charge as another way of doing my bit during these times and I’m amazed at how full my days have become with people feeling that Covid has gotten the better of them and with the end of lockdown in sight are starting to imagine how the future and they themselves might look and feel.

On the theme of travel, right now we are all taxiing over the airport of life, awaiting instructions that it is safe to land and then further instructions that it is safe to disembark and which carousel to collect our luggage from.  
How many of us will find ourselves disembarking from Covid with lost luggage or not getting through Customs as we have too much luggage to declare?

A healthy body can help you with a happy mind.

In his book “The art of making memories” Meik Wiking CEO at The Happiness Research Institute in Copenhagen – writes of how to create and remember happy memories – Wiking suggests harnessing the power of firsts, that memory is triggered by associations, tastes, smells, songs and multi-sensory experiences. Apparently, Andy Warhol changed his perfume every 3 months. 

The monotony of Covid may rob us of more than just holiday memories if we are not careful. If looking back in years to come, the most memorable recollection of time spent in Covid is binge watching Tiger King... 
 
I like to say; "Life is about meaning and memories - you create the meaning through the memories and the memories through the meaning"
Winnie the Pooh said “You don’t know you are making memories; you just know you are having fun” 

So, how can you have fun at the moment?
What funless parts of your day could be made fun? 
What sensory experiences could you add?
What firsts can you create or explore in these times?
What song lists can you create to lift the mood?
What meaningless repetitive things are you doing that will not be a memory in your later years?
What is one thing different you could do every day that scares you?
Will Covid or the lockdown period of your life be lost time now and forever from your memory bank?

I'm making my morning porridge on the stove to add some mindfulness to the experience of breakfast. I'm then making sure I eat each meal of the day, not at my desk, or in front of some sort of screen, but with mindfulness around my environment and the passing of time.
I’m setting myself weekly challenges such as jumping in the ocean every single morning. We all still own our mornings, and I can still remember every time in my life where I have jumped into the ocean while it’s been bucketing down with rain. I’m setting weekly challenges of no Netflix of an evening and reading instead – earlier evenings, better sleep and fuel for these thoughts.

The idea of doing one thing every day that scares you, is not about being reckless, but pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. 
Doing firsts. 
Who doesn’t remember their first kiss? 
OK that was reckless for me, but memorable, as I got into trouble from my school principal, for breaking into the sports store room when I was in 6th grade to kiss my childhood sweetheart for the first (and last) time... maybe there was another, but I don't remember it.

Herman Hupfeld kind of agrees and disagrees with me in The opening lyrics of his song "As Time Goes By", famously featured in the 1942 film; Casablanca;

You must remember this
A kiss is just a kiss
A sigh is just a sigh
The fundamental things apply
As time goes by..

The fundamentals are the basics.
Dr. Adrian Maslow describes in his “hierarchy of needs”; that we have basic needs for physical survival, psychological needs, and the need for self -fulfilment – the need of achieving one’s PURPOSE in life. 
Dr. Maslow’s needs start with the basics; food, water, warmth & rest, then move up to safety & security, then the need for community & friendships & love and the top of his list - Self Actualization - self fulfilment needs - The realization or fulfilment of one's talents and potentialities, especially considered as a drive or need present in everyone - Your raison d'être - Your reason for being.

So use this time to discover your Purpose. Use this time as alive time. Use this time to thrive, not just survive. Have a story to tell that is different from everybody else's, of your experience of Covid and lockdown.

I'm looking forward to hearing a few stories as I am released with the doubly vaxxed next week and apparently the pubs will be open to me and the other twicers a couple of days before my birthday in October. 
And....
I'm looking forward to ordering my first drink in a public venue 
“Bar tender get me a drink please!”
“In fact – make it a double!
  
Vaxx Well
DL

Vaccination is the medical sacrament corresponding to baptism - Samuel Butler 1832 - 1902

If you have some short term goals that you want to achieve or need to kick start a new beginning in your life, reach out to Book some time in with me HERE, or drop me a note on email.  



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"How you wake up each day and your morning routine (or lack thereof) dramatically affects your levels of success in every single area of your life. Focused, productive, successful mornings generate focused, productive, successful days— which inevitably create a successful life." Hal Elrod (Author of The Miracle Morning )
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"By three methods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest." CONFUCIOUS In their book Ikigai: The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life, Hector García and Francesc Miralles write that there is no word in Japanese that means to retire in the sense of leaving the workforce for good. The Oxford Dictionary defines ikigai as “a motivating force; something or someone that gives a person a sense of purpose or a reason for living”. In researching their book, García and Miralles spent time in the village of Ogimi on the Japanese island of Okinawa. Ogimi is known as the village of longevity. Its 3000 inhabitants enjoy the highest life expectancy in the world. In Japanese culture, retiring and not keeping mind and body busy is considered bad for your health since it disconnects your soul from your ikigai. Being of service to the village by continuing to be involved in community life or continuing to work is felt to be a key ingredient to longevity. In the book, 92-year-old resident Akira says: “Every day I wake up and go to the fields to grow tomatoes. Later I walk to the grocery store next to the beach and sell them. In the afternoon I go to the community center and prepare green tea for all my family and friends.” These Japanese people keep doing what they love and what they are good at even after they have left the office for the last time. The French, of course, have a similar expression—“raison d’être”—which the Oxford Dictionary defines as “the most important reason for somebody’s/something’s existence”. The more time I spend with spritely elderly people, the more I find they are still involved in their community as volunteers or working the job they loved before they “retired”. Like many of the lessons older people have taught me, we shouldn’t wait until we’re retired to adopt their happiness-inducing and youth-preserving behaviours. The definition of what makes people happy varies greatly, however in his book From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life, Arthur C. Brooks believes that the three major ingredients of happiness are enjoyment, satisfaction, and purpose. The satisfaction and enjoyment I receive from encouraging people to be better than they believe they are, and to press on in times of hardship, provides a real sense of meaning and purpose in my life. The Dalai Lama, when asked what surprised him most about humanity, replied: “Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.” I’ve coached many people who spent the first half of their lives chasing wealth and are now spending the second half of their lives chasing back their health. I’ve been coaching many more people lately who aren’t concerned about the health they have lost. They fear being cast aside and replaced by much younger yet inexperienced people, threatening the wealth they created while they adopted a “health is your wealth” mentality. Those deciding my client’s fates are themselves, in most cases, much younger than these seasoned campaigners. The dirtiest secret I keep for one of my good friends is his age. He invited me to his 40th, which was really his 50th and the younger folks were none the wiser. The best kept secret of my healthiest clients is also their age. I used to say the payoff of fitness is vanity. These days I say it is sanity. The peace of mind my fit "old" friends have is that they look younger than their age, because they look after themselves. In searching for ideas to support how I wanted to describe the collective suffering people have struggled with in the past yet are now enjoying equality and opportunities provided for them after many generations of struggle, ChatGPT served up the following. "Diversity refers to the presence of differences within a given setting. These differences can include various dimensions such as race, ethnicity, gender, age, sexual orientation, socioeconomic status, physical abilities, religious beliefs, political beliefs, and other ideologies." Unprompted, I was then offered, “In a broader sense, diversity encompasses the unique characteristics and perspectives that individuals bring to a group, organization, or society, enriching the collective experience and fostering a more inclusive environment.” I was invited to pitch for a consulting role with a global organisation 10 years ago and the friend who had organised the meeting warned me of the CEO’s bias toward younger people. Within 10 minutes of our meeting, the CEO was challenging the energy levels and enthusiasm of more experienced people as he called them, versus that of 20–30-year-olds. At this point, with the benefit of the heads up, I pulled out my phone and showed him a video to illustrate my point in age versus experience I went on to suggest that the challenge for the 3 standout players in this video was to teach the energetically enthused players how to do what they could do, while they were on the job, not in handover notes that will never be read.. I got the gig. I do think that ageism is the last blatant discrimination in the workplace and needs to be addressed by those with much more clout than my keyboard and contacts can achieve. The brave new world aside, Dame Carol Black from the Centre for Ageing Better brilliantly pointed out “Ageism compounds all other “isms”. Ageism and sexism; ageism and racism etc” A final word to the “whys” of those considering losing experience from their workforce is best left to Carole Eastern CEO of Ageing Better; “Ageism is prejudice against our future selves” The challenge for any generation is to assimilate with people of all ages. Most of the best advice I received in the workforce was bestowed upon me by older colleagues in a social setting for the cost of a steak and a wine, and most of the advice I have dispensed to younger colleagues has been dispensed the same way. Curiously, when I joined the workforce, the biggest shortcoming that was ever levelled at me was my lack of experience.. Age well. DL “The young have bad manners, contempt for authority, disrespect for their elders and a love for chatter instead of exercise. Children began to become the tyrants of their households ……. They no longer rise for their elders ….” Socrates
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“It seems to me that the real problem is the mind itself, and not the problem which the mind has created and tries to solve. If the mind is petty, small, narrow, limited, however great and complex the problem may be, the mind approaches that problem in terms of its pettiness.” Jiddu Krishnamuti
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