“The nicest thing about the rain is that it always stops. Eventually.” Eeyore

March 22, 2021
I Googled the expression "it never rains but it pours" after consistent downpours over Sydney this weekend. I have had the expression running around in my head and it is still pouring down now.
Wiktionary tells me it means “Unfortunate events occur in quantity.”
It got me to thinking about the chronically unfortunate amongst us who will complain of the unfairness of their lot in life but will not start to help themselves by taking the first step.

I was asked yesterday what I do as a Life Coach? and I answered, “I help people get out of their own way”.

You see, we all know what we need to be doing with our lives, to achieve our goals – but nothing works if you don’t. 

I get called “Lucky Lee” quite a bit and a mate once said to me “If you were pushed out of a plane without a parachute DL, you’d land on a hot air balloon” - I have found however, that the harder I work, the luckier I get. 

I call it DL magic – but like any magic trick, behind the tricks are a set of effects that must be put in place.
My morning routine consists of early rising, a glass of filtered water, with the juice of one lemon, a couple of grinds of sea salt, which I drink through a metal straw to protect my teeth’s enamel from the citric acid. I follow this up with a double shot espresso coffee, sit down at my desk and start free hand journaling with a fountain pen, writing for 2 x A4 pages. I keep palm cards to the side, for the creation of my “must do” list, as they pop into my head. I will then embark upon 10-20 minutes of meditation before heading out for either a full body, weights workout; Upper Body & Lower Body or hot Yoga, every other day, followed by a 20–30-minute sauna and a cold shower.
I finish off this routine with circular breathing 6 seconds in, hold for 6 seconds, release for 6 seconds and repeat 6 times. 
Within this time frame I either read something smart for 30 minutes or listen to an audible book – hard to read in the gym, but easier in the sauna...

It is within this routine, that the magic is created, because I have the confidence that I have prepared myself for what the day may bring.

It is all about prevention, rather than cure. I have learned that good habits are forged through repetition and it is the routine that is set, to set me up for the day. A morning routine ensures your days aren't routine.

The author of the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People – Dr. Stephen Covey, coined the phrase “To know and not to do, is really not to know”.

If you know how to lift weights, but don’t - Do you even lift Bro? 

The early morning is the rudder for the day. Each part of my morning routine has come together over the years from the learnings I have gathered.

I drink the lemon and salt water to rehydrate after 8 hours with no water, and the lemon juice is a detoxifier.

I drink the coffee as a pre workout energiser, it kick starts my metabolism, it is rich in antioxidants and I love it...

I journal, to get perspective on the day ahead, remove the chatter out of my monkey mind and I meditate for the same reason.

My full body workouts are based around blood shunting, which forces the heart to work harder, moving from an upper body exercise- incline bench for example to a lower body exercise, such as squats or deadlifts. With higher reps, the workout serves both a strength and cardio purpose.

My Yoga sessions are a fantastic way to stay flexible and there is a certain sense of spirituality experienced from focusing on balance, stretching, and breathing for 1 hour in the early hours.

I am lucky. With the 30 minutes of smart reading I do each morning, it seems to often benefit one of my clients or someone I might meet in my travels that day. I feel when I give advice, I learn twice. I am reminded of what I read and now having passed it on, I have cemented the learnings into my thought processes.
Knowledge really is one of the only things I can think of, that you don’t lose by giving it away...  

Going from the sauna to a cold shower, helps in my recovery by reducing inflammation, muscle soreness and the alternation of hot and cold therapy, boosts immunity through flushing out the lymphatic system.

The circular breathing seems to calm my entire system and it is during these 108 seconds that I usually get an epiphany, or an anxious thought... 

If I do nothing with the epiphany, then nothing good happens.
If I do nothing with the anxious thought, then nothing bad happens...
If I do something with the epiphany, something great happens.
If I let the anxious thoughts run amok, then all that happens is worry for no reason. I am also going against some great advice I read from Shakespeare; “There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so.”

So, with Peace of mind as my highest priority, the morning routine sets me up for a naturally phenomenal day. If it’s to be, it’s up to me.

I often remind myself of a story and a saying that I learned in Aesop’s fables as a young boy.

A WAGGONER was once driving a heavy load along a very muddy way. At last, he came to a part of the road where the wheels sank half-way into the mire, and the more the horses pulled, the deeper sank the wheels. So, the Waggoner threw down his whip, and knelt down and prayed to Hercules the Strong. “O Hercules help me in this my hour of distress,” quoth he. But Hercules appeared to him, and said:

“Tut, man, don’t sprawl there. Get up and put your shoulder to the wheel.

“The gods help them that help themselves.”

There will no doubt be some muddy roads and bogged cars out there at the moment and we are lucky that we have the SES. 

But don’t forget to be your own SYS…

Save Your Self &
Be well.
DL





Don’t keep this to yourself. Spread the word.

By David Lee September 25, 2024
"How you wake up each day and your morning routine (or lack thereof) dramatically affects your levels of success in every single area of your life. Focused, productive, successful mornings generate focused, productive, successful days— which inevitably create a successful life." Hal Elrod (Author of The Miracle Morning )
By David Lee June 30, 2024
"By three methods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest." CONFUCIOUS In their book Ikigai: The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life, Hector García and Francesc Miralles write that there is no word in Japanese that means to retire in the sense of leaving the workforce for good. The Oxford Dictionary defines ikigai as “a motivating force; something or someone that gives a person a sense of purpose or a reason for living”. In researching their book, García and Miralles spent time in the village of Ogimi on the Japanese island of Okinawa. Ogimi is known as the village of longevity. Its 3000 inhabitants enjoy the highest life expectancy in the world. In Japanese culture, retiring and not keeping mind and body busy is considered bad for your health since it disconnects your soul from your ikigai. Being of service to the village by continuing to be involved in community life or continuing to work is felt to be a key ingredient to longevity. In the book, 92-year-old resident Akira says: “Every day I wake up and go to the fields to grow tomatoes. Later I walk to the grocery store next to the beach and sell them. In the afternoon I go to the community center and prepare green tea for all my family and friends.” These Japanese people keep doing what they love and what they are good at even after they have left the office for the last time. The French, of course, have a similar expression—“raison d’être”—which the Oxford Dictionary defines as “the most important reason for somebody’s/something’s existence”. The more time I spend with spritely elderly people, the more I find they are still involved in their community as volunteers or working the job they loved before they “retired”. Like many of the lessons older people have taught me, we shouldn’t wait until we’re retired to adopt their happiness-inducing and youth-preserving behaviours. The definition of what makes people happy varies greatly, however in his book From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life, Arthur C. Brooks believes that the three major ingredients of happiness are enjoyment, satisfaction, and purpose. The satisfaction and enjoyment I receive from encouraging people to be better than they believe they are, and to press on in times of hardship, provides a real sense of meaning and purpose in my life. The Dalai Lama, when asked what surprised him most about humanity, replied: “Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.” I’ve coached many people who spent the first half of their lives chasing wealth and are now spending the second half of their lives chasing back their health. I’ve been coaching many more people lately who aren’t concerned about the health they have lost. They fear being cast aside and replaced by much younger yet inexperienced people, threatening the wealth they created while they adopted a “health is your wealth” mentality. Those deciding my client’s fates are themselves, in most cases, much younger than these seasoned campaigners. The dirtiest secret I keep for one of my good friends is his age. He invited me to his 40th, which was really his 50th and the younger folks were none the wiser. The best kept secret of my healthiest clients is also their age. I used to say the payoff of fitness is vanity. These days I say it is sanity. The peace of mind my fit "old" friends have is that they look younger than their age, because they look after themselves. In searching for ideas to support how I wanted to describe the collective suffering people have struggled with in the past yet are now enjoying equality and opportunities provided for them after many generations of struggle, ChatGPT served up the following. "Diversity refers to the presence of differences within a given setting. These differences can include various dimensions such as race, ethnicity, gender, age, sexual orientation, socioeconomic status, physical abilities, religious beliefs, political beliefs, and other ideologies." Unprompted, I was then offered, “In a broader sense, diversity encompasses the unique characteristics and perspectives that individuals bring to a group, organization, or society, enriching the collective experience and fostering a more inclusive environment.” I was invited to pitch for a consulting role with a global organisation 10 years ago and the friend who had organised the meeting warned me of the CEO’s bias toward younger people. Within 10 minutes of our meeting, the CEO was challenging the energy levels and enthusiasm of more experienced people as he called them, versus that of 20–30-year-olds. At this point, with the benefit of the heads up, I pulled out my phone and showed him a video to illustrate my point in age versus experience I went on to suggest that the challenge for the 3 standout players in this video was to teach the energetically enthused players how to do what they could do, while they were on the job, not in handover notes that will never be read.. I got the gig. I do think that ageism is the last blatant discrimination in the workplace and needs to be addressed by those with much more clout than my keyboard and contacts can achieve. The brave new world aside, Dame Carol Black from the Centre for Ageing Better brilliantly pointed out “Ageism compounds all other “isms”. Ageism and sexism; ageism and racism etc” A final word to the “whys” of those considering losing experience from their workforce is best left to Carole Eastern CEO of Ageing Better; “Ageism is prejudice against our future selves” The challenge for any generation is to assimilate with people of all ages. Most of the best advice I received in the workforce was bestowed upon me by older colleagues in a social setting for the cost of a steak and a wine, and most of the advice I have dispensed to younger colleagues has been dispensed the same way. Curiously, when I joined the workforce, the biggest shortcoming that was ever levelled at me was my lack of experience.. Age well. DL “The young have bad manners, contempt for authority, disrespect for their elders and a love for chatter instead of exercise. Children began to become the tyrants of their households ……. They no longer rise for their elders ….” Socrates
By David Lee June 21, 2024
“It seems to me that the real problem is the mind itself, and not the problem which the mind has created and tries to solve. If the mind is petty, small, narrow, limited, however great and complex the problem may be, the mind approaches that problem in terms of its pettiness.” Jiddu Krishnamuti
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